nickelbackthatassup:

don’t trust college kids. I threw a party w plenty of food/drinks shit even weed and I wake up and you know what’s missing? my pineapple. who went to the back of my fridge and said imma take all this pineapple. damn son. take the free alcohol not my pineapple man…

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Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

  1. You do not respect their rights as an individual.
  2. You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
  3. You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

"I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me "

“’You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?’”

I found these quotes particularly interesting. OP’s mother refused to listen when she tried to talk about her depression, but snooped through her things to see if she was depressed.

It’s amazing to me that parents need to be told something that I GUARANTEE they experienced themselves. This is something that predates text messaging. You search your child’s room for drugs, and they will find a better hiding place for anything they may be worried about you finding - even if it’s as innocuous as candy. You try to snoop on their phone conversations with their boyfriend, and they will 1) Find a different way to communicate with him, and 2) Never communicate with YOU about their boyfriend.

My parents doing this shit to me didn’t make me stop doing it and didn’t make me respect them any more. All it did was make me better at sneaking around.

dajo42:

dajo42:

harry potter: “albus severus, blah blah blah slytherin tootle toot fart noise you were named after the bravest man i’ve ever known”

teddy lupin: “hey uh… remember my fucking dad”

[albus arrives at hogwarts]

albus: “hello professor! did you know severus snape? my dad says he was the bravest man he ever knew”

neville longbottom: “is that fucking right”

flashback poussey outfit appreciation post

frankoceanfanclub:

baberellafox:

yeaahahahahah

what the hel;

terraforce:

This is the only post on this site I care about

lauren-jauregui:

pashmere:

omfg this gif is the answer for everything

"how are you?"

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"did you get a good grade?"

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"how’s your romantic life?"

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how’s ronaldo doing in the world cup so far?

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kumaton:

politicalsexkitten:

yukaryote:

Why Guys Like Asian Girls - Anna Akana

Everyone needs to watch this video. Now.

100% on point especially about men thinking that having “yellow fever” is a compliment and we’re supposed to be flattered by it. It’s the #1 way to parade around your blatant racism.

I want to be friends with her!

orgasmic-humor:

This is so accurate it hurts

orgasmic-humor:

This is so accurate it hurts

burdge:

victims of the 90’s

theendofaspark:

this is never going to not be funny 

quarrterquels:

When you do better than everyone else on a test

ghoulkiss:

infinitesimal - mother mother

theuppitynegras:

kingjaffejoffer:

muzungus:

lightspeedsound:

youngblackandvegan:

morbidguise:

cannibaljackrabbit:

faggotviolence:

professorxvx:

goatinahat:

situationally-studious:

graymonkey:

Wat

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Lmao

peak whiteness has been achieved.

HA HA HA HA

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The “new” word. New to you clueless ass crackers.

you people are literally the worst

PS according to my German speaking hedgeknight who lived in Germany the first 15 years of his life:

Kunstwerk = piece of art

Kunst = art

Werk = creation, work

And according to him, abbreviating it to “twerk” would just never happen at all in German.

So clearly what the fuck is going on. 

lmao

I’m normally not on the “white people must be stopped” bandwagon but this is pretty ridiculous. 

It’s time to turn down